Seeing Yourself The Way Your Children Do

The Velveteen Rabbit teaches us how.

I had an exchange the other day with a friend I’d not spoken to in quite some time. Our conversation centered around the fortieth birthday she was about to “celebrate.” I put celebrate in quotes because the mother of two will do anything but. She admitted in no uncertain terms just how mightily she was dreading the occasion — struggling with it, even.

When I asked her why, she told me she was afraid of losing her edge. She didn’t ever want there to come a day when she wasn’t considered attractive anymore. It was harder than ever for her to “keep her figure.” She no longer had the same amount of energy as she used to. Each day of never-ending subservience to her young children was blending into the next. She felt rundown. And what’s worse, whenever she spied her own image looking back at her from a full-length mirror, she believed that she looked rundown. Especially compared to the way she looked just a few years ago.

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John Cave Osborne is a writer whose work has appeared on such sites as DisneyBaby, Babble, YahooShine, TLC and the Huffington Post. He was also referenced by Jezebel one time, but he’s pretty sure they were making fun of him. He and his wife, Caroline, live with their five children and spastic dog in Knoxville, TN. Nothing annoys him more than joke-heavy bios written in the third person, with the possible exception of Corey Feldman.

  • http://twitter.com/adriennemay Adrienne May

    Love this. My son told me I am beautiful the other day. Made my day.

    • Anonymous

      Andrienne — thank you! i never get comments on my blog any more since i pretty much link over to Babble. so while your son’s comment made your day, your comment made mine. and, by the way, your son is 100% accurate. (he said with sincerity and respect.)

    • Anonymous

      Andrienne — thank you! i never get comments on my blog any more since i pretty much link over to Babble. so while your son’s comment made your day, your comment made mine. and, by the way, your son is 100% accurate. (he said with sincerity and respect.)