Dad Defends Wife: Video of Encounter With Pro-Lifers Goes Viral

Women who walk into this clinic know this guy's story. But does he know theirs?

One of my friends has a video that’s gone viral — over 600,000 hits. His name is Aaron Gouveia, and the first time I ever read his blog, I knew he was the kinda guy I’d be down with. Over the past several months, we’ve built a friendship. Most recently, we’ve become teammates of sorts, as we are both part of a group of dads who will be regularly contributing to the site GoodMenProject.

Anyway, back in July, he shared a series of unspeakably difficult experience with his readers on his personal blog. It culminated with the experience he captured with his video. As I read the series of posts, I was overcome with equal amounts of sadness for my friend who was going through such tough times, as I was admiration for my friend who was navigating them the only way he knew how — without a single ounce of bullshit. And I mean that in the most complimentary way possible.

Most recently, he again shared his story on the aforementioned GoodMenProject site. It got picked up by a bunch of other prominent sites — Salon and Slate among them. And for the second time, his video blew up — only this time to an even greater extent than before.

Simply put, Aaron’s a hero. And I’m not one to throw out such a term lightly. But there’s no other word to describe him. Once you learn his backstory and see the video for yourself, you’ll think he’s a hero, too. I promise.

I blogged about it over at Babble yesterday. I hope you’ll take a few minutes to check it out.

And, Aaron — you’re a good man, my friend. The world needs more like you.

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John Cave Osborne is a writer whose work has appeared on such sites as DisneyBaby, Babble, YahooShine, TLC and the Huffington Post. He was also referenced by Jezebel one time, but he’s pretty sure they were making fun of him. He and his wife, Caroline, live with their five children and spastic dog in Knoxville, TN. Nothing annoys him more than joke-heavy bios written in the third person, with the possible exception of Corey Feldman.

  • http://fathermuskrat.com/ muskrat

    There’s no way I could’ve had that exchange without dropping the F bomb a few times. Hell, I dropped it over a dispute over a parking space not long ago!

    • Anonymous

      boy do i hear you on that one. i woulda been cussing like a sailor. there’s no WAY i would have held it together like that. the guy’s a champ.

  • http://wwwjackbenimble.blogspot.com/ The JackB

    Aaron is a good man- doesn’t know dick about sports but nonetheless he is good people. And I might add that I’d always pick him to be on my team.

    • Anonymous

      i try not to hold his Tom Brady man crush against him.

  • http://www.almightydad.com Keith Wilcox

    I’m not sure that qualifies as being a hero in my book. I think it’s the subject matter that has people passionate, not necessarily the mere fact that he got into a verbal confrontation with people who gave his wife a hard time. Now, if he had to physically protect his wife from people who were attacking her or do something that but his own safety on the line for the benefit of someone else, then I can see why we’d call him heroic. But, I argue with people all the time about every kind of whatever, and I’d never consider myself a hero. I would have argued with those ladies myself if put in the same circumstance, still it’s the subject, not the action that I think has elevated him to his status. I swear I’m not just trying to be a pain in the ass, John, by saying that :-). I respect what the guy did, because a lot of us wouldn’t stand for our wives getting berated by strangers, but I just wouldn’t elevate it to heroism status.

    • Anonymous

      keith — you are MORE than welcome to disagree with me anytime, my friend. you know from our past encounters that i always welcome your opinion — even when it differs from mine.

      and i’m sticking w/ hero. largely b/c of HOW he confronted them. while most people would have been so blinded by their rage, he calmly turns their arguments around. example — they ask “do you know how many women commit suicide after having an abortion.” he asks “if you’re so concerned about them, then why are you berating them on their way to get it done?” (paraphrasing, of course.)

      also — largely, i suspect, because of how he handled it, hundreds of thousands of people have heard his calmly delivered message. and so it transcended a simple encounter.

      all that said, i do understand what you mean. that’s why i was careful to point out that i don’t throw that kind of term around a lot. but in this case, i honestly feel like it applies.

      still, you make good points, and i always enjoy your perspectives. they are as well thought out as they are well articulated.

    • http://twitter.com/DaddyFiles Aaron Gouveia

      Thank you Keith. I agree, hero should be reserved for people who do things far more impressive and important than confronting two ignorant old ladies. I just wanted to let you know I’m doing everything possible to shun that word, and compliments in general, as they make me uncomfortable.

      I’d much rather have backhanded compliments from pricks like Jack!

      • Anonymous

        fine. i’ll back off the hero talk, even though i’ve always considered your actions heroic. but don’t worry. you won’t “hear” me say that word again.

        so long for now, ero-hay.

        “pricks like Jack.” LOL

  • http://jugglingeric.blogspot.com Eric D. Bolton

    I posted this same thing on the original post as well..

    I remember the post where Aaron was excited about having a new baby. I felt his excitement, I was genuinely happy for him and I believe congratulated him. With this news, I am genuinely saddened with his families loss. While Aaron and I are on opposite sides of the spectrum when it comes to issues, he is dedicated husband and father and expressively so. That is a bond I share with him from which my feeling emit. That said, I am a Christian. I am a firm believer in God and salvation through Jesus Christ. I am pro-life, but I am not a zealot. Not all Christians picket with signs about “You’re Killing A Baby”, “God Loves Dead Soldiers and Hates Fags”.. Those are the zealots who are using their “faith and beliefs” in the wrong way to win souls. In the process they are making people group all Christians together with them and their idiotic thinking.
    If Aaron would have asked my opinion, I would have given it to him based on my beliefs. Fully knowing that I have no way to feel exactly what his family is going through and the grief this obvious hard decision is on them. I care for him no less, but maybe more now know how hurt they are for their loss. And this is a big loss that will carry with them the rest of their lives. Will they have other children? I hope so. Will they be healthy? I pray they will.
    Christians are not perfect. Aaron had every right to rip them apart and call them hypocrites, etc. I applaud him for standing up for his for his family.

    • Anonymous

      eric — there was so much i wanted to say in response to your thoughtful comment that i’ve not found a pocket of time big enough to get it out. but for now, i really, really respect not only your faith (i think you know that i share that faith with you), but also your last paragraph.

      i have a slightly different take, however. or, maybe better put, a different stance. will follow up later, but for now, please know that your comment really made me think and i appreciated you leaving it.

    • Anonymous

      okay, here goes…one of the very first things i picked up about you from your blog was your faith. and that impressed me. especially b/c of the way you wore your it (your faith) — truthfully, and tastefully — not sanctimoniously or contentiously, but not bashfully, either. prominently. for all to see. inviting, even. and, for what it’s worth — that’s how i try to wear mine.

      you know who one of my favorite authors is? CS Lewis, who, if i’m not mistaken, was an atheist for quite some time. i’m not sure that i was ever an atheist, but, at very least, i was certainly agnostic. i didn’t find my faith until later in life. and it was thanks to a handful of tough times, a coupla good friends, a lonely brand of “success,” and a three-day CS Lewis bender. Mere Christianity with a Screwtape Letters chaser. IMHO, there is no more compelling case for Christianity than Mere Christianity, and the fact that it was put forth by a fiercely intelligent man who at one point in time did not believe? more compelling still.

      but even after believing, i wasn’t one of those born-again guys with overnight and instantaneously strong faith. i had to grow into mine, and it’s taken some time. in fact, it’s still happening. but now, i’m proud to say that faith is the cornerstone of my marriage and family.

      that said — i’m very careful with my faith. b/c of what you alluded to when you wrote: Those are the zealots who are using their “faith and beliefs” in the wrong way to win souls. In the process they are making people group all Christians together with them and their idiotic thinking.

      Mahatma Ghandi once said (and i’m paraphrasing) the only problem with Christianity is Christians. i’m constantly blown away by the judgmental, and genuinely believe that sanctimony and self-righteousness of (often hypocritical) Christians does more harm for our faith than good. in a land of freedom, such people come off as myopically intolerant. and that’s too bad. b/c i bet they scare a lot of good people away and provide them with a hard-to-argue-with reason for why they don’t believe.

      overly zealous people, by and large, are dangerous ones. assigning Christianity to those two idiots Aaron confronted is as asinine as assigning Islam to the cowards who carried out the attacks on September 11th. but people make those assignments all the time.

      i’m not even sure why i wrote all of what i just wrote except, perhaps, to frame the following statement:

      i couldn’t be more pro-choice if i tried.

      i know i’m in the minority from most Christians when it comes to the issue. but so much of what i identify as wrong with our faith is what compels sign-carrying-hypocrites to attack victims like MJ (Aaron’s wife) with a hateful brand of behavior that simply couldn’t be any more unChristlike. the way i see it, if more Christians were pro-choice, there’d be one less negative stigma out there on us.

      i’m not even sure that all made sense, but i hope it at least made enough sense to piggy back off of your original and thoughtful comment.

      b/c what i read it to mean was that you’re pro-life, but a compassionate, empathetic man who also finds the actions of the picketers reprehensible. so, while i’m slightly on the other side, i totally respect your opinion, as well as the kind and articulate way you presented it.

      hope you have a great weekend!