Happy New Year!

I don’t know about you, but after the long holiday season, I’m always pretty fired up for the new year to begin. Sure, I’m a little sad that Christmas has come and gone, but nothing can last forever. Besides, the changing of the year is the cleaning of the slate. On January 1, we start anew, and with that comes an opportunity to make the upcoming year even better than the one before it. When you think about it, that’s part of the reason why we make resolutions.

Only I hate resolutions. Resolving to do something makes that something sound like an arduous and unpleasant task, doesn’t it? It implies that the something can be done, but to do it, it’ll take all that you’ve got. And while many things worth doing take all that you’ve got, I seldom “resolve” to do them.

For example, each year my friend, Chris Chambliss, and I do a section of the Appalachian Trail. In ’09 we did eighty miles in five days. Hiking fifteen plus miles a day for the better part of a week while carrying a forty-pound backpack up and down steep inclines certainly qualifies as something that takes all that you’ve got–both physically and mentally. It takes great resolve. But Chris and I don’t make a yearly resolution to do it. Whenever we plot out our course, neither one of us looks at the other and said “This year, our resolution is to do one hundred miles.”

Instead we say, “This year, our goal is to do one hundred miles.”

And that’s what I do on New Year’s Eve. I make goals. Not resolutions. Striving toward a goal is uplifting. Even if you fall short, it’s okay. Anytime you do your best to meet your goals, you should be happy. If you constantly set worthwhile goals, and if you continually do your best to achieve each and every one of them, odds are you will live a fulfilling and worthwhile life. At least that’s what I believe.

So what are my New Year’s goals? This year, like each of the two prior ones, most of my goals pertain to my family or me. (Funny how adding triplets to the roster alters your glance inward. At least for a while.) I have a goal of becoming a better husband to Lovie, and a better dad to Pookie, A, B, and C. Another goal is to become a better Christian, and a better man. There is much work to do on all of these fronts, and to make progress will take all that I’ve got, but I’m not biting my tongue and resolving to do them with a furrowed brow of masachistic determination.

I’m setting hope-filled goals and promising to do my best to reach them. For my family. And for me.

Oh. I almost forgot. There is actually one goal this year that doesn’t pertain to my family. I’m extremely excited about. You’ll hear about it soon.

Happy New Year, everyone! God bless…

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  • http://dadunmasked.com DadUnmasked

    Very well put my friend. Resolutions just lead to future let downs. I too, have set a few goals for next year. I won’t get into too many of them, but being a better father is always at the top of the list. Happy New Year to you and your family.

  • http://dadunmasked.com DadUnmasked

    Very well put my friend. Resolutions just lead to future let downs. I too, have set a few goals for next year. I won’t get into too many of them, but being a better father is always at the top of the list. Happy New Year to you and your family.

  • http://www.privilegeofparenting.com privilegeofparenting

    I’m with you on putting the kibosh on resolutions. On my end I’ve gone with New Year’s Intentions, but goals work too—especially if we enjoy the process and worry less about the outcome.

    Namaste for a terrific year, Bruce

  • http://www.privilegeofparenting.com privilegeofparenting

    I’m with you on putting the kibosh on resolutions. On my end I’ve gone with New Year’s Intentions, but goals work too—especially if we enjoy the process and worry less about the outcome.

    Namaste for a terrific year, Bruce

  • Nicki

    Happy New Year, JCO, to you and your wonderful family!!

  • Nicki

    Happy New Year, JCO, to you and your wonderful family!!

  • http://thedevoteddad.com Jason @ The Devoted Dad

    A cliff hanger of an ending. Both are great goals. I agree with the idea of goals vs resolutions. I haven’t set true New Years goals for a while, mostly because I need smaller goals over shorter time periods. I am like you in that my NY goals are more subjective and non-quantifiable- the best kind because they are things that can always be improved upon.

  • http://thedevoteddad.com Jason @ The Devoted Dad

    A cliff hanger of an ending. Both are great goals. I agree with the idea of goals vs resolutions. I haven’t set true New Years goals for a while, mostly because I need smaller goals over shorter time periods. I am like you in that my NY goals are more subjective and non-quantifiable- the best kind because they are things that can always be improved upon.

  • http://www.johncaveosborne.com johncaveosborne

    @dadunmasked — an honor to have you come by the site. enjoy running into you in cyberspace. you’re one of the good ones in my book.

    @privilageofparenting — it seems that a lot of us feel that way. dadunmaksed is one of us, too.

    @nicki — nicki’s the real deal, y’all. bonfide. happy new year to you, too!

    @ jason — it’s better to have a goal, don’t you think. i love what you said about improving upon things. it’s important to try. hard. nothing is black and white. neither are the things we try to do.

  • http://www.johncaveosborne.com johncaveosborne

    @dadunmasked — an honor to have you come by the site. enjoy running into you in cyberspace. you’re one of the good ones in my book.

    @privilageofparenting — it seems that a lot of us feel that way. dadunmaksed is one of us, too.

    @nicki — nicki’s the real deal, y’all. bonfide. happy new year to you, too!

    @ jason — it’s better to have a goal, don’t you think. i love what you said about improving upon things. it’s important to try. hard. nothing is black and white. neither are the things we try to do.

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  • http://mayerandnewton.com Lori

    Well said on goals. I must say you have your priorities in order and I am blessed to know you.

  • http://mayerandnewton.com Lori

    Well said on goals. I must say you have your priorities in order and I am blessed to know you.